Contrary to popular belief, the birth of my children was not where my time line originated. I was a whole person before creating my own family unit. I had a history, a life, experiences, growth, mistakes and some pain. Go figure. I suppose we cant all organically have a sparkling, witty sense of self without […]

Read More Dumb & Numb

Mother’s Day is a bit of a mixed bag for me. It’s a lot of taming expectation, giving up control and trying to roll with whatever the day holds. It’s about genuine intention, grace and flexibility. I have 2/3 of those things. I feel like major holidays are a great reason to avoid social media. […]

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I have not written in quite a while so I wanted to come back and do that. … but I don’t have much to say. I have a lot to say, but I also have nothing. So much has changed in the world, so much has happened to everyone just in general. Like where would […]

Read More Checking In

The conversation of race and social justice is so important, especially now. I have found it tricky to navigate at times because I don’t want to talk about it just to say “We’ve talked about it.” I want it to be impactful. I want them to find meaning in it for themselves, not because I […]

Read More Race and My Kids

I think i’d almost prefer cholera…almost. The problem is that i’ve already established that there is no tech/chat/discord privacy in this house- for the teenager, obvi. For myself my friends know what to do in the untimely tragedy of my death. So because my kid knows I look through his phone, he is somewhat careful […]

Read More Parenting In The Time of Discord

I have had a case of the BLAHS lately. I’m not even really sure it’s from one or two specific things or reasons, it’s just a general mood now. I’ve never been good with change, and lately that’s kind of all there is. Ironically it’s a lot of change during a time when there is […]

Read More Much Too Much

Parenting is hard. Right from the beginning it’s hard. You choose a name. Does it live up to your family’s expectations? Are there any drawbacks? Horrible nicknames? Offensive connotations? This is something that will be with them their entire life, but no pressure. It’s just the beginning of all of the choices you have to […]

Read More It’s Not About You

This kind of goes for everything right now. Covid. Getting Old. Parenting a Teenager. Chaos, Armageddon, TikTok insomnia. It’s all real. “Old” is relative, right? But like it’s not. I was living my life … well, Covid-style. So gaining weight and not exercising. Eating snacks and watching Netflix to stay sane … except I was […]

Read More Just Accepting It

Parents, have a teen? Planning on having your child become a teenager? About to inherit a teenager? PLEASE accept this warning. Stock up on all the love and admiration now. Soak it in. Write it down. Tattoo it on your back. (backwards so you can read it to yourself in the mirror) You will need […]

Read More Teen Warning

My oldest is a teenager. The angst I write about is mine, not his. Right now it’s really hard being the parent of a teenager. He’s 14. He should be a freshman in high school performing with the marching band, practicing with his section, complaining about his smelly uniform. He should be anxious about the […]

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